A wedding mean "Aaaaaah, love is in the air." Or does it? Based on the findings of a current Harvard Law School study, it may be more concerning for a bride and groom to declare “I don’t trust you!” at the altar than share “I do’s.” The study, which accomplished that contrary to popular faith a prenuptial accord increases the chances of marriage success, attempts to convert the marriage union into a sterile cooperative.

The findings of the judicious Harvard study go on to say that a prenup is good because it serves as a form of premarital analysis and makes couples talk about financial issues and legal ramifications should the marriage go belly up. This so-called study discovery muddies word definitions. A couple discussing financial issues is developing a “financial plan,” building a pathway to achieve their joint hopes and dreams. A couple attaching legal ramifications to this exercise is preparing a “divorce plan,” in expectancy of failure.

A prenuptial agreement provides a split for each person to keep one foot out the door, refining distrust. Neither mate is ever fully devoted to the marriage. (There are some situations in which a prenuptial agreement is advisable, such as an older couple desiring to marry, both widowed and each owning extensive accumulated assets.)

An observation of today’s statistics illustrates that prenuptial agreements are driven by fear. According to the National Marriage Project, about 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, 20 percent by the five-year mark. Around 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third marriages go bust. It’s no wonder why couples want paperwork and walk down the wedding aisle with anxiety.

However, as is true with most challenges in life, marriage being no exception, attitude is a self-fulfilling prediction. If at the outset you believe you can achieve a set goal, the chances are high that you will. Think absolutely, you get a positive outcome. What can be reasonably assumed of a couple who enters marriage with a distrusting mindset?

A prenup is often recommended when a person of material comfort marries an individual of modest means. In some ill-fated way, the document is supposed to serve as a guarantee that the individual of minor worth isn’t marrying the rich one for money. A prenup also is often advised when both parties possess great wealth. Again, the legal is meant concord serve as promise against money-mongering. In other words, wedding is being entered into under the suspicion that either the bride or groom or both are thieves!

In the case of a immature married couple just setting out in life together, a prenup is irrational because there’s usually little, if anything, to split. Home furnishings and kitchen tools are about all they merge. If the marriage doesn’t work, she’s not likely to want his brown corduroy couches and matching recliner-chair nor is he likely to grovel for her non-stick pots and pans.

Investigation with several different law firms disclose that attorneys charge an average of $2,000 to $3,000 minimum to draw up a prenuptial agreement, and the fee escalates depending on the amount and complication of the assets of the individuals. A better investment for an engaged couple might be in marriage education courses, couples retreats, books on marriage, and other venues that will enhance and help solidify their relationship.

As evidenced by the current debacle between Britney Spears and Kevin Federaline, prenups don’t essentially fulfill their intention. This pair has a prenup to protect her wealth, yet he’s demanding $50 million to surrender custody of their two children. (The lawyers, again, are fattening their wallets.)

Marriage is not a agreement. Marriage is anticipated to be a lifelong journey between two people who love each other and want to experience and explore all life has to offer – together. And when the road gets unsteady, it’s not a signal to whip out the prenup. A couple who is truly married has the will and resolve to fix problems and find solutions – together.